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Legal gay marriages in the United States

Massachusetts has become the first state in the US to allow same-sex couples to get married. Whether it will last or be crushed under the weight of a Constitutional amendment I don’t know, but it’s bloody wonderful in the meantime:

Other towns and cities across the state were also prepared to wed large numbers of same-sex couples as the law came into force. The Supreme Court ruling upheld a decision by the state’s highest court. It said that denying marriage licences to same-sex couples violated anti-discrimination laws.

The Massachusetts ruling has fuelled heated debate across the country – and the controversy has been particularly intense in an election year. In a statement, President Bush said he had called on the Congress “to pass, and to send to the states for ratification, an amendment to our Constitution defining and protecting marriage as a union of a man and a woman as husband and wife. The need for that amendment is still urgent, and I repeat that call today.” His rival John Kerry – who is a Massachusetts senator – is also opposed to same-sex marriages, but favours a more limited form of legal recognition.

I think the issue of gay marriage only started to matter to me when I realised that many of my gay friends actually wanted to get married. And on the day when a friend of mine showed me a marriage booking form online in San Francisco and I started looking for the section for gay people and there wasn’t one – It was all the same form… That affected me too I think – to realise that while it was clearly an issue at the moment, the whole point of this battle was about completely collapsing that difference around relationships. That’s a pretty cool goal…

104 replies on “Legal gay marriages in the United States”

Legally it will take a minimum of two years before Massachusetts could amend its constitution and ban gay marriage, and even then only there were huge support for it. The same is true of the US constitution.

I find it appalling that a nation built on the precepts of freedom and equality (and also the seperation of church and state) would have considerable elements of its citizenry and government actively pressing for a constitutional ammendment directly intended to limit freedom and equality for religious reasons.

I am 16 about to turn 17 and My girl friend and i wont to get married the day I turn 17 what States is it possable for us to do that in????

im writing an essay on gay marriages, onhow i believe they should be legal in every place possible and i cant find anything on where and how this battle and discrimination got started, somone email me and let me know or give me some info please thanks. bye

I think that gay marriages should be legal because it’s their life and they have intense love for their partner, all they want to do is have the right to get married. So why would some one else want to destroy some one else’s happiness.

Is it possible to marry someone that is not a US citizen,and because it is a same sex marriage,would the other spouse who is a citizen be able to petion them?

I’m a Christian and I believe in separation between church and state. For all those who believe in God there should be ìMarriagesî and for those who donít there should be ìCivil Unions.î All in all it should be a right of everyone to be happy, to love who they love and to give power over their lives to whom they wish to. My girlfriend and I, we all have a right to live and share our lives with whom we desire.

MY BROTHER HAS BIN TRYING 2 GET MARRYED AND CANT HE JUST WANTS 2 GET MARRIED NOT KILL ANYONE IF HE WANTS 2 HE SHOULD BE ABLE 2 IN NJ NOT IN ANOTHER PLACE SO I AGREE SAME SEX MARRIAGES SHOULD BE ALLOWED IT WONT EFFECT U IF THEY GET MARRIED NOW WILL IT

I have been with the woman I love for almost two years and I want to marry her. I can’t see my self with any one else in the world but her and I want to show her that by marring her. But, We can’t do that because of other people in our government that claim they know whats best for us but when it comes to stuff like this it’s so personal. People mis-understand homosexuality it has nothing to do with being with a man sexually it’s uncontrollable. I’m pretty sure if we had a choice on who we fell in love with no one would be gay. So they should let them be who they are.

I am in love with my lesbian woman and I would like to marry her in the future. I feel that happiness is where the heart is and if your heart is with someone of the same sex then that is where it should stay. nonone should deny that from you. No law should be able to tell us who we should love or not love and deny us from spending a life time with each other in a legal way for legal reason. I believe Gay Marriages should be legalize in all states.

Gay marriages should totally be legal. Tomorrow in one of my classes i have to debate against one of the boys in my class and I have some pretty deep things to say. I just think that anyone who is should be able to love anyone they want to and not be disturbed by anyone who dissagrees.

i think that it is wrong and that we should not have it. God made us to have man and woman but not to have the same sex.

i believe that gay marriage should be legal in all states. whos to say that it wont one day, how are people supposed to show their feelings the way that opposite-sex married couples do. they just want to love, and be loved by who they want, how will that affect anyone elses life in any way.

i am christian, i have many friends who are gay, and i want them to be happy, is that so much to ask for. i can relate to them also, so whos to say that one day i would want to marry the same sex, but i cant b/c im only 15 now……

i just want to say that im gay my family nos and they support me i have a wonderful girlfriend and we plan to marry but i cant find the states that support this. her family recently found oput about this and her mother actually assualted me now we are moving and would like to go to a state that is ok with us any ideas we also have two amazing children who we would like to have friends with other gay couples childrren

I have quit a few gay friends and one or two lesbian friends so I know what ur all talking about. However, I disagree strongly with the proposle that they be alowed to get married. I don’t care what any of you say so don’t even bother replying to me but You’re wrong and gays do not have the right to get married. Its unlawful and goes aginst God Himself. Like I said dont bother replying to me cuz i know im right and i know ur wrong so just suck it!

Bahaha, CPHS is terribly ignorant… its sad to see such an unitelligable person go to waste, oh wait, not really better by comparision i guess. Laws are designed to promote social cohesion and social progress, soon these laws will reflect a change in society and gay marriages will be legal, wether u like them or not. ( i support them 100% i have a gay friend, best mate to be honest, and hes absoultly hilarious, and is similar to any straight man i know.

gay married should be legal because we love our partners. im 18 and would like to get married with my girlfriend as soon as possible. proud to be gay!!!!!!

I thought gay marriages were about love? Well if it is, why does gay marriage have to be illegal? This stupid law conflicts with other laws… so why can’t it be legal? Just because people are GBLTQ doesnt change who they are.. People who are homophobic need to grow the hell up. Also some people are not religious so people need to stop using the “God said in the bible…” Not a lot of people are religious… and if you are, God also says that he loves you for WHO YOU ARE…

im writing an essay on gay marriages, on how i believe they should be legal,somone email me and let me know or give me some info.

I am 28 and have been with the same man for a while and we have often talked about the possiblities of getting married. I dont understand what the big deal is. If all of the homophobic poloticians could understand what this would mean to a mass of people. They dont understand that all we want is the same thing that they want. I am from Mississippi, I live in Mississippi, so yea my family has some issues with my being gay. My mother, who at least asked me to educate her on what she does not know about, asked me to explaining what it was that I wanted by getting married and being with a man. I simply told her that I wanted the exact same thing that she wanted. When asked “what” I told her, When she laid down next to my father at night, it didnt matter what happen at work, at home, Money…etc. She knew that just laying next to him she knew everything would be ok becasue she had him, for better or worse, till death do you part. Now just immagin that he was dying, and someone were to tell you that after 22 years together, you dont have the right to see that his suffering doesnt continue, or better yet you cant even be in the same romm with him because a polotician does not agree with your union, and dosent consider you family becasue it is not written on a piece of paper at the court house. She began to cry and assured me that would never happen to me, becase she would never allow that . from then on my mother I think has loked at me alittle differently, almost as if she is sure that this is not a phase anymore, this is real and I think she takes me alittle more seriously now. Now If a 28 year old man from MS can convice a southern God fearing women in her late 40’s that being gay is ok, then why is it taking so much longer for Goverment to clock in and take the unity of the UNITED STATES another step closer

i think its okay because i know alot of people who are that way and yes if poeple dont let them do things just because of the way they are then that is disscrimation.

I BELIVE THAT SAME SEX MARRAIGE SHOULD BE ALOUD THERES NOT A THING WRONG WITH IT ITS THE SAME THING AS A BOY AND GIRL JUST DIFFERENT PRIVATE AREAS THEY SHOULD NOT BAN IT JUST BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE DONT WANT IT SOME PEOPLE ARE IN LOVE WITH THE SAME SEX WHAT ARE THEY SUPPOSE TO DO JUST DROP THERE FEELINGS BECAUSE OF A STUPID LAW NO THEY SHOULDNT IM 15 YEARS OLD AND I’M A BISEXUAL AND I DONT SEE NOT ONE PROBLEM WROND WITH IT YOU CANT DISCRIMINATE SOMEONE BECAUSE OF WHAT THEY ARE RACISIUM IS ILLEGAL THATS THE SAME THING ITS NOT BALCKS OR WHITES BUT ITS PEOPLE LOVING SOMEONE AND GETTING CALLED NAMES FOR SOME THING THEY FEEL JUST BECAUSE IT IS SOMEONE OF THE SAME SEX I BELIVE IT SHOULD BE AND IF THEY BANN IT THEN THEY ARE JUST PEOPLE WHO COULD GIVE A CRAP LESS ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE FEEL WHAT IF GAYS WHENT AGAINST STRAIGHT MARRIAGES WOULD YOU BAN THAT JUST CAUSE THEY WANT YOU TO NO THOUGHT SO WELL YOUR BANNING GAY MARRIGES JUST BECAUSE STRAIGHTS DONT APROVE WHICH IS CRAP YOU GOT MY OPINION

WE ARE ALL EQUAL!!!! my twin sister is gay and i support her 100% on any decissions she makes in the future

I really think its none of our Business if they want to be gay let them…JEEZE i have too gay uncles and i suport them all the way… They kept it from me for along time because they though i would hate them well i am glad they have told me cause now i know how it should be in life… we should be treated EQUAL we are all americans in this world.
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kala

i wholeheartedly support gay marriages. just cos sum1s g/l/b shouldn’t mean they can’t love. im gay, just not openly(at home) and anyone should be allowed to marry. so what if god ‘wrote’ a book saying its wrong- so did hitler.

I think that it is absolute descimination when “The United States” will not allow two of the same sexes to unite. We’re human being also!

I have been with the woman of my dreams for 6yrs now and it is time for us to take that next step. What are the states that legalizes gay marriages? I feel like if you love someone enough to want to marry them the gender shouldn’t matter because love sees no gender.

I believe that gay and lesbian marriage should be legal in the United States. They should also receive the same benefits as women and men who are married receive. Just because they love the same sex, doesnt diminish the quality of their love. Love isn’t constrained to the opposite sex, it has no boundries, and thus gay and lesbian marriage should not be frowned upon. Thy aren’t causing any pain or trouble in the United States. If this country is supposed to be a democracy, where people should all be treated equally, then why is same sex marriage such an issue?

I THINK THAT SAME SEX AMRRIAGE SHOULD BE ALLOWED BECAUSE I THINK IT SHOULD BE UP TO EACH INDIVIDUAL ON WHO THEY CHOOSE TO SPEND THE REST OF THEIR LIFE WITH THAT IS A PERSONAL CHOICE AND IT SHOULD BE TOTALLY UP TO THAT PERSON AND I KNOW THAT PEOPLE SAY IT IS WRONG BUT EVERRY MAN IS TO ACCOUNT FOR THEIR OWN MISTAKES

I have been with my partner now for 6 years. I have to be honest, I once believed gay marriage should be illegal. I am a highly educated person. I double majored in college and went on to earn a graduate degree. Before, when I thought about marriage, I thought of religion. I imagined a holy man, devoted to God, joining two individuals with his bible in a sacred house of worship. I felt that the “people” who wrote the bible did not intend two guys to be at the alter partaking in holy matrimony. I did not choose to be gay, nor would I wish my disposition to be put upon my best friend. My feelings on gay marriage changed when I accepted myself, for who I really am. Our founding fathers wrote into the Constitution the separation of church and state. The “law” was created to protect our autonomy, NOT the beliefs of a select few. A law permitting the marriage of “gay” people would not infringe on the autonomy (natural rights) of any human being. Drunk driving is illegal because it infringes on the natural right of another human being to live. Not because the “people” who wrote the bible stated drinking and self-indulging is wrong. If “religious’ people are offended by “gay” people using their religious umbrella to legally marry, then we should take the “religious ceremony” out of “gay” marriage. There should be a “legal” ceremony. One where two “people” promise their love for each other and take home a legal document insuring their promise and their right’s, as a married couple, under the law. Someone in a “gay” marriage should be able to share their benefits with their partner and have some “legal” say in the event that their partner is not able to make important decisions on their own. I CAN NOT UNDERSTAND HOW ANYONE, WHO CALLS HIM/HER SELF A RELIGIOUS PERSON, WOULD PREVENT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING FROM BEING ABLE TO LEGALLY MAKE DECISIONS FOR THEIR LIFE PARTNER IN THE EVENT THEY BECOME INJURED AND COULD NOT DO SO!

I honestly think that people against gay marriage have no right to be. Its just the same as discriminating against a white person marrying a black one. You cant tell someone who they can and cant marry. If a straight person was told they couldnt go into the hospital room because they were straight, they would have the same reaction gays have…THATS BULLSHIT! All i know is that there is nothing wrong with it in reality. Although it is sinful or not in the bible, how is it honestly going to effect our world?! It will actually be less stressful and people wouldnt sue or fight against the government. Everyone, no matter race or sexual orientation, should be able to marry the significant other they wish to marry. Its flat out stupid to argue against it, because basically the only reason people are against it is because its in the bible, and they just dont want to “see” it. People cant change the way they feel, and for all the straight people against it out there, they need to realize that there is no reasoning to the discrimination of gays. People in this world sin all the time and break laws just as much. There shouldnt be anything wrong with gay marriage!!

i think that gay marriages should be legal in the United States and my opinion is that I don’t think it matters who we marry and basically it’s not anybody’s business who someone marries.
Everybody makes a big deal about who everybody marries and I think it’s crappy that everybody has to live by other people’s rules when all they want to do is be HAPPY!!!
I am a lesbian and with the girl of my dreams and we are getting married soon and I don’t care what people think when we get married. It’s our lives and we are going to do what we want to do no matter what anybody says. ALL that matters to me is OUR HAPPINESS!!!

I have no idea why homosexual marriage is anyone else’s business other than the couple’s. I have been with my life partner for over a year now and we are very much in love. We would really like to have equal rights not more or less. I love how people say “Oh its so against God and yet they are completly being hipocrits by judging us. God clearly states he is the one true judge and to let him take care of the issues when the time comes. It breaks my heart that people want to take my childhood dream away of having my perfect wedding. Dawn Smiga Nampa Idaho.

I’m all for the legalling gay marriage.. i mean if a girl loves another girl and they want to marry, its their choice. If the U.S. is all bout the rights of the people and the freedom of the people then what makes gays so much different.. I find it insulting cuz im bi and yes i do wish to marry my future girlfriend.. its not right if they discriminate us because we love the opposite sex. what gives them the right to do that.. i mean all us gays want is the same rights as the straight person does. we are no different. ya no. if the U.S. is taking the marriage rights for the gays then whats next.. they gonna shoot us? it isnt right and if this law passes then i dont care wat they say i will marry a girl if i wish.. none of us should take this.. we have the same rights and laws as the straight person does and we should be able to follow it too. we shouldnt be treated different cuz of our likes or our dislikes.. thats what makes everyone different and unique.

Does anyone know if a Massachusetts same sex marriage would allow one partner to obtain a green card???

i am writing a paper for a project for my participation and government class, and iim looking for places that gay marriages are legal exept for massachusettes, vermont, canada, spain, etc…

i am a 22 yr old bisexual female from louisiana.i think that if u r in love it doen’t matter what sex or race u r u should be able to marry.love doesn’t say u have to be opposite sex it is saying that u care for someone mentally physical and emotional.u need to have the right to decide who u want to marry not i have to marry the opposite sex.

I think that most of you are completely off your rocker. As Mr. S so eloquently put it, i am sick of homosexuals using the “religious umbrella to legally marry.” It’s not only the fact that it is written in “a book,” it’s the fact that it is completely unnatural. In nature, there are no homosexual animals. Mating is strictly used for reproduction. The bond that is forged between a man and a women is different and deeper than that of same sexes. A friendship is forged between same sexes; intimacy is created between opposites.
If I’m to read another comment on how the founding fathers set our government with the separation of church and state, I might scream! It wasn’t meant in that way. It was meant as a caution from becoming like the Anglican Church which ruled the people as its government. The pilgrims came in hopes of religious freedom, so don’t talk to me about how our country wasn’t founded on the grounds of religion.

Jamie,
I am glad we do see eye to eye on one issue. However, homosexual animals do exist in the wild and scientists have always known about them. Scientist have even been able to alter the amount of hormones an animal is exposed to in utero to ensure the homosexuality of an animal in a lab environment for empirical purposes only. Your viewpoint of how our government and laws are written and why the pilgrims came to this land are dangerously intermingled. The pilgrims immigrated here way before our founding fathers wrote the constitution! The reasons why our founding fathers wrote the constitution has nothing to do with the reasons why the pilgrims immigrated here! Have you ever heard of the Boston Tea Party? Do you know why the citizens of Brittan did what they did? It wasn’t because they were trying to flee religious prosecution. It was because they were sick and tired of being apart of a monarchy that did not take into account our natural right’s. This incident led to a war I don’t think you have ever heard of… you know the one with Britain that led to our independence. We celebrate the 4th of July as our independence from a suppressive monarchy, not from religious persecution. AND YES!! THAT IS WHY THE SEPARATION OF CHUCH AND STATE WAS WRITTIN INTO OUR CONSTITUTION. NOT BECAUSE THE PILGRAMS IMMIGRATED HERE TO FLEE RELIGIOUS PROSECUTION, BUT BECAUSE OF OUR FOUNDING FATHER’S WERE EDUCATED AND KNEW AND UNDERSTOOD HISTORY!! THEY DID NOT WANT TO MAKE THE SAME MITAKES OTHER GOVERNMENTS HAD IN INCORPORATING THE DOGMA OF RELIGION INTO THEIR LAWS. If the majority of our nation has the same understanding of history in general, WE MIGHT AS WELL GIVE UP NOW!! THEY SHOULD JUST HERD US INTO CONSITRATION CAMPS NOW, GAS OUR LUNGS AND THROW US INTO THE OVENS TO HIDE OUR REMAINS. IT HAS HAPPENED TO HOMOSEXUALS IN THE PAST BECAUSE OF A GOVERNMENT CREATED BY A MAN WHO WAS HATEFUL, UNEDUCATED, A MURDER, AND INFLUENCED BY A CONTORTED VIEW OF F. NITCHZE’S WRITINGS. WHO BY THE WAY WENT TO HIS GRAVE DAMNING HITLER FOR EVEN MENTIONING HIS NAME!!
Mr. S
P.S. – Did you know that Britain has denounced religion as apart of their government several times in their rich history?

Jaime,
One last thing… Did you know that at the time our constitution was written Queen Elizabeth was the one that ruled her government… not the Anglican church?
Mr. S

I am trying to write this paper– due in the morning. My argument is that marriage SHOULD NOT be denied to same sex couples. I am a straight, female… who has strong views that equal rights should be equal rights. There is just one problem here- I have the emotion and passion behind this standing, but a lack of further information. I dont know where same sex marriage is legal in the US- where it is worked on being legal, and what the difference between “marriage” and a “civil union” is??
Any help would be greatly appreciated. I apologize in advance for my ignorance regarding such an important issue
Thanks!!
alexislevine@gmail.com

I’ve been doing research all day for a speach im presenting tomorrow on gay marriage and its sickening all the anti-gay marriage and homophobia ive witnessed in just a few hours. I came across this topic when my teacher wouldnt allow me to do my speach on stem cell research, which she called “uninterestng and doesnt pertain to teens.” which is complete bs. i would normaly debate her but im failing her class and right now i need her to not get pissed at me. but anyway gay people have as much right as any person out there, its just the prejudice that the government holds against them thats keeping them in a rut. we need to stop this horrible government from deciding for us what to do with our lives. its ucking rediculous how stupid americans are for re-electing this dumbass.
as a 15 year old i have dont many rights either. its painful having to endure this nazi government that just proves to the rest of the world that we are completely stupid!!! i admit that kerry wasnt the best choice but any one besides that murderer sitting in the white house right now. ive come accros alot of ignorant people in my short time but none as ignorant as the white, bible pushing, facists that oppose gay marriage, abortion, and anything that would require a solid opinion out of someone
stella

I am 18 years old and I am gay and dearly in love with my girlfriend. We would love to get married but can’t find where. Any suggestions?
And to all those people who say God said no in the bible….Well I believe in my heart and soul that God is my Lord and savior. Ask yourself…who wrote the bible…MAN!! Stories passed down and mixed up…well the only thing that is stated by Jesus Christ is that there is nothing wrong with who you love…
He speaks of unconditional love and that is the end of it…but if you also read Matthew he states that hatred is unacceptable and those who hate others, hate him and will not be accepted into the kingdom of heaven.
There is also the challenge of church and state..that the states won’t allow gays to get married because of the beliefs of the church…well if that is the case..put the discussion of religion back in school dammnit. And if they don’t want to mix church and state, then gays and lesbian should have thier rights to get married..people need to grow up and stop letting others think for them. Learn to make your own decisions and let us get married…don’t object to it because you hate it…if that is the case then you are goin against God either way…

MY MESSAGE TO WHO OPPOSE OF GAY MARRIAGE…..
why should it be your damn business that homosexuals are in love? would it kill you? therefore, mind ur damn business! i will tell you that i am not a gay person but i support gay marriages because gay people are human beings!!! First of all, everyone in America are human beings. Meaning of that is everyone has their own personality, color, race, and religion. People in America has the right to make their own decisions once they turn eighteen years of age. Homosexual people should have equal rights as straight people do. People who oppose to gay marriage should let homosexuals be who they are and mind their own business of others’ relationships. Everyone can choose on their own whether to be straight, gay, or live their live single for the rest of their lives!!!
YA HURRD U FUCKER’Z!!!!

I am a 16 year old feamle I am in love with the woman of my dreams. We both have talked about getting married but we can’t. Who stops blacks and whites from getting married NO ONE! I think its stupid that my girlfriend and I can’t get married. When the only thing homosexuals want is to be able to get married and have a family. I mean how would you feel if the govermnent told you that you and you lover couldn’t get married because you have blue eyes and your lover has brown. It’s not fair to all the homosexuals. We’re not asking someone to cut off there leg or something we just want our rights to get married.How would people like it if someone told them they couldn’t do something because sosity thought something was wrong with them? IF you have something to say to me please feel free to email me at butchchick2008@yahoo.com thank you for you time!

If I hear one more person wave their religous flag Im going to freak out lol no ones religon is perfect..if it was then there would only be one. it also says in the bible that slavery was used. and slavery is not ok. Ive always thought that the “freedom of religon” was also the freedom from religon.
I think the only reason that people are so persistant in not allowing gay marriages is because its different and once the come to realize that gay people or no different then the next person and gay people want the same things out of relationships that straight people desire..which would be love and affection…I mean arnt we all just looking for someone cool to grow old with..it shouldnt matter what sex that person is, or what religon they happen to be, or what color they are.
were all only here for such a short time, and in that time we should be happy and if being with the same sex makes u happy i dont see why people would judge. no one is 100% sure that their even is a god..so why should we punish gay people for wanting to be with the person they love over something that were not even sure exsists.
I have quit a few gay friends and they are some of the best people in my life and they have helped me so much and I wouldnt trade them for the world.
for all u haters out there..heres something to think about..before the 19th amendment women were not allowed to have jobs, form an opinion, they were thought to be put on this earth to have children and clean. Now look how many independant women there are out there. The only reason that took so long because it was an unthinkable act..just wait gay marriages will be legal before you know it..so just deal with it!

am in love with a transexual from the phillipines have known him forever and is our desire to get married we have never been together. and seems we never will any one who has any ideas on how we can be together please contact me

I have a boyfriend that lives in Paris and I have been with him for five years now. We are very much in love and I would do anything to be with him. My question is if I move to mass and marry him will he be able to stay in the united states? I am totally for gay marriages and I think that it is a very stupid thing for them to be illegal!

i think that gay marriages should be legal because if some one decides to be gay then that is on them for me i am gay and me and my fiancee want to get married asap. they leagalized different races and that is fine now. people can not help who they fall in love with.

IM 44 years old been gay all my life never came out until 2005 when i meet this lady from NM she show me that if you love someonee it should matter what othe people think she said live and let live. I never felt so good in my life i kissed her out side and it felt so right. that was in NM. Know she lives with me in Md and she wantes to get merried and so do i .how do we do that and where. she is 27 I’m 44 and we are so much in love her famliy love me so much.and they are so happy for us.

ok gay marriages should be legal, its how people feel. and if they are keeping it illegal because people dont like it thats retarted. if people dont like they dont like u cant please everyone in this world. just let it be legal and watch how many people will be happy

Well gee… remember how the consititution stated that all men should be treated equally because we were all created with equality??? Well they say that gay marriage is against the constitution however… they need to recognize what the constitution says in regards to equality…
I am 17 and my boyfriend is 18. We are really seroius and indeed he has asked me to marry him.. we are formally engaged however… will we ever be able to be happily married???

I am so confused about the whole issue of gay marrages whenever i have aconversation about it, it always turns into an opionated view. What is the purpose for even introducing the law in the first place. For leagal purposes only? Because people live with who they want to now anyway, they just call them roommates, lovers, best friends, buddies, girlfriend or boyfriend and even husbands and wives so what is the difference in just allowing it to be put on paper. They even have common-law marriages if you have been dating someone for so long. Do they just want to have funeral leave or parent to be leave form work or do they want to claim someone on their taxes or what? I’d just like to know what difference does it make if the law is passed in “la la land” or in Massachusettes, when they are married they are married wherever they go right?

Gay and lesbian marriages are completely and utterly wrong. I believe that all men and women have the right to life, liberty, and happiness, but happiness does not come from going against God’s word. Gay marriage cannot ever become legal.

I WAS MARRIED TO A MAN FOR 16 YEARS AND I CARED FOR HIM BUT STILL I DIDN’T FEEL COMPLETE I WASN’T ABLE TO PICTURE THE FUTURE WITH HIM WE DIVORCED. I AM NOW WITH A WOMAN 7 YEARS AND COUNTING. NOW I CAN LOOK AT HER AND TRULY MEAN “YOU COMPLETE ME!”

I am in love with a female and would like to marry her without having to travel cross the U.S. or having to get on the internet and look for states that we could get married. This is outragouse because a straight couple can have there fantasy ceremony in which ever state they please while me and my girlfriend have to choose out of a few states that we never thought we would get married in. Regardless of what people outside of the box may think, it is very possible for a female to love another female. Love does not have a gender because when you really really fall in love with a person, you fall in love with their soul and souls don’t have a gender either. I am deeply in love wit a woman and think it should be our buisness alone if we want to get married.

Yes Gay marriage should be allowed in every state. In this world so full of hate and discontent with man kind ANY Love that can be found and shared should be cherished nd it is my view that God want’s Lovein these trying That is where me and my Girlfriend will go if we have to.
Good Luck and much Love….

me and my girlfriend have been together for a years and six months , i love her to death and i want to marry her. i dont get why people dont accept gay people, they should just let us be and get married where ever we want. now i have to travel all the way to canada to get married when all i want to do is get married in my own state.

ME AND MY FIANCE WANT TO GET MARRIED IT IS SAD THAT WE CANNOT GET LEGALLY MARRIED IN THE USA AND HAVE TO GO TO CANADA

I totaly think that gay people should get married. And i have a question what if some one got married in Massachusetts and move to another state would they be able to or do they have to stay in Massachusetts? and what when they ban gay marrage in Massachusetts will every body have to get a divorce or can they stay married well i think this whole situation is retarted and i think they should just let them do what they want to!

Im trying to find out what states can you get married in,cuz I love my girl…and Im 26 and she is 25..its about that time. If you can answer my question then please hit me up.

I don’t know why people have a problem with gay people. It’s not like were hurting the environment. We actually clean up what others don’t. ( for example , i have many gay friends and a couple of them adopted 3 children that strait people give up,and i am completly happy for them. They have been engaged for 3 years and i can’t wait until they can get married. I’m a full blown out dike and i’m proud of who i am. i’m only 17 years old and living on my own and supporting myself. I’m only a senior in high school and my own mother rejects me because i came out and told her i was gay. The last time i saw her was when i was homecoming queen. i told her after that and that was the end of us. I really don’t care anymore. I have a beautiful girlfriend that i love with all of my heart. We are high school sweet hearts and still together 3 years later. Shes a christian, but she believes that true love only comes once in a lifetime, as well as i do. Life is too short to wory about what people think or do. Just have fun. Fall in love or something.

ANY WAY.. I THOUGHT THIS WAS A FREE COUNTRY? FREE TO VOICE AN OPNION. FREE TO MARRY WHOM EVER U WANT TO? WHAT THE HECK IS THE BIG DEAL? SO WHAT IF 2 PEOPLE OF THE SAME SEX MARRIAGE WANT TO BE BINDED TOGETHER. I JUST DONT UNDER STAND WHY PEOPLE HAVE TO BE SO JUDGEMENTAL. THOSE WHO CLAIM THEY ARE CHRISTIANS BE-LITTLE THOSE WHO ARENT LIKE THEM… THATS NOT CHRISTIAN LIKE. MAN AND WOMAN.. BLAH BLAH BLAH.. I THINK THEY SHOULD HAVE THE SAME RIGHT AS ANYOTHER. NO I AM NOT GAY AND NO I DONT HAVE ANYTHING AGAINST WHAT OTHER PEOPLE BELIEVE IN. I JUST DONT THINK IT IS FAIR TO THE OTHER PERCENT OF THE POPULATION THAT PAY THEIR TAXES AND SUCH TO TELL THEM THEY CANT MARRY THEIR LOVER. MY FATHER IS ONE OF A GAY COUPLE, AND HE IS HAPPY BEING GAY,BI, OR WHAT EVER PEOPLE LABEL THEM AS NOW.

i thank that every one has the right to choose who they want to be with it is there right .this is suppose to be a free country and not being ablt to marrie who you want im not gay but i thank every one should have there choice in what they want or who they want to be with and the goverment shouldnt have the right to deny you your rights or your power to be free so yes i thant they should legalize gay marrages all over the united states and every one should have there freedome to do so this is a free country and we should all be free to marrie whomw we want it is our choice ….it is our freedome….

i am curious what all states currently are allowing gay marrage ? im so lost right now on that whole issue cuz no one talks about it anymore because of all the other issue going on in the world but this issue is extremely important to me so if any one has any info let me know

period gay people are cool with me i love them but im not gay its just how they were made because they could have been straight and had sex with the opposite sex and then discover at that very moment that they do not like the opposite sex and then begin to go with the same sex so thats not there fualt how they feel about someone or something thats the same or different. so people who makes a big deal about being gay its nothing but love and you cant help whoo you love you are not suppose to so fuck what you heard do you no matter what the results come out to be about if you can marry the same sex its you and why in the hell is they worried about it its not them reallllllllllllllllly:(

OMJ what is the big issue. If people want to get married to the same sex it should be alloud! If you are straight you are alloud to marry the person you fall in love with. So what makes you any diffrent if you are gay? I believe you should be alloud to marry anyone you want to. Im writing a report on gay marriges so if you have anything to say please contact me.

I’m working on a long form essay in my aew class and its on how gay marriage. The information everyone has put has really helped

MARRIAGE IS A FUNDAMENTAL RIGHT THAT SHOULD BE ALLOWED FOR ALL PERSONS.
Based on the extensiveness of force pushing against a social tradition within a given society, will determine the expected level of opposition to any movement threatening that social tradition.
However depending on the level of suppression and oppression individual or collectively experienced in reaction to social tradition, will determine the extensiveness of expected opposition to any force denying those individuals their basic and equal rights within that society.
CULTURAL REFORMATION IS A SLOW PROCESS BUT THE DEMAND FOR EQUAL AND FUNDAMENTAL RIGHTS WILL NEVER BE SILENT.

if a partner is not a citisen of the US,are they eligible for green card with same sex marrage?

me and my gf have been together for over 3 years and we are looking into getting married soon and i was wondering on the states that are legal and what are there procuduers and how old do you have to be? Any suggestions?

Same-sex marriage has been legally preformed in the state of Massachusetts since 2004. Connecticut, Vermont, New Jersey, Maine, Hawaii, and California offer domestic partnerships and/or civil unions that are similar to (if not the exact same as) the rights and responsibilities of a marriage.

In the situation of having a foreign-born partner . . . find out if they qualify for (1) a work-based visa or (2) political asylum.

I think gay marriage should be legal in the united states because every one has the right to be with the person they love and also marry the person they love, and why should other people denie this happines to some one, only god has the right to Judge people…..
ATT:YS#8 !!!!XOXO!!!!

ALL PEOPLE ARE CREATED EQUAL SO WHY CAN’T WE MARRY THE SAME!!!! I AM TIRED OF ALL OF THIS POLITICAL CORTECTNESS!!!! ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!! THEY CAN TAKE THIER CIVIL UNIONS AND GIVE GAY’S THE RIGHT TO MARRY

same sex marriages are just fine with me, even though i’m not a lesiban. people need to just accept it. hetrosexual couples wouldn’t like it if they were told “No, you can’t marry, because its a man and woman relationship!” i believe if it were the other way around, where hetrosexual couples were trying to get rights, they would be fighting just as hard as those who want same sex marriges to be allowed. but stay strong out there. and i’m for allowing gay marriages. GOD BLESS

WELL I THINK THAT GAY MARRIAGE IS WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS. IT IS UNCHRISTIAN. I DONT WANT TO WALK DOWN THE STREETS AND SEE TWO MEN OR WOMEN KISSING AND HOLDING HANDS.!!!!!!!!!!!!

My nephew just got engaged to his male partner, I need to know where they can be legally married? They both deserve to be happy!

i think that if you want to be gay its your choice and if people dont want to see it they dont have to look and im not gay but i have gay friends ands i think they have just as much rite as heterosexual’s to joined in holly mattermony ond i think the government is only gong to loose this fight this thime they should give up already !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i think gay marriage should be legal becuase belive that the two peple that love eachother should be able to be together if they wish. i dont care if it looks disgusting or whatever, but its what they want and they should have the right to do that!!

i think gay marriage should be legal becuase belive that the two peple that love eachother should be able to be together if they wish. i dont care if it looks disgusting or whatever, but its what they want and they should have the right to do that!!

i want to marry my girlfriend, she is 21 i met her when i was 17 . it was just sopposed to be casual and not go to the extreme, but it did. she was the first girl i was ever experienced with and was intrested in and then i fell in love. i think we should marry who we want because it makes us “HAppy”..!! who cares if it is the same sex, we don’t judge who you marry why are we so different? we feel and heal the same and experience the same emotions. were still human!!

My Name Is Christina And I Think Gay Mariage should be leagalized. I have a lot of bi-gay friends and i am sick of them being discriaminated against and i want gay marriage to be legalized cuz i do not want my bi-gay friends to grow up and not be able to get married to the one they love because of some stupid law.

i have a girlfriend, and im sooo in love with her, to the point that i want to get married with her.. we love each other so much.. i would like to know what do i need to get married, how old do i have to be.. im about to turn 19 in june and my gf is 20..

I will like to propose to my partner of 5 years on our Anniversary in August. In what state can be have a legal union / marriage?
Thanks.

is bush even married? ive been engaged for almost a year now and my girl and i want to get married soon, where could we go to make are life one? it would make her really happy if she gets the wedding of her dreams.

Hi. i am a lesbian and i am dating this wonderful girl. and we are very happy. we want to get married and have all our families there but we can not get married in our state cause it is not allowed in ohio where we live at.i think wat ever is in ur heart that wat matters not the goverment. they do not say who i date or marry.we want to adopt a kid but dont know if they let us. and we would rather get married in ohio where we live at. if anyone wants to tell me bout where we can get married or just have a good gay talk email me at stormxmen523@yahoo.com thanks.
love bastian and katie my girl

hi there i am 18 a uk citizen and wanting to marry a us citizen what would i need to take or do when im in the us to get married and where abouts can i do this? i some one could email me i would be grateful thanks. dude9955@hotmail.co.uk

well hey there well im gonna write an essay about gay marriage im not against it i think is ok wat other people desire if they want to get married with the same sex im cool about like for me im bisexual so im not agaisnt it but if you guys can help me out with i will appreciated

Hi i am 16 years of age and i am in love with a girl and we want to find a place next to us to get married but we cant….. We live in VA, me and this woman have been togather for a year and i think that if they let blacks and whites get married then so should gays and lesbines, i wish that the US and all the states will allow the same sex marriage…. Thank you Nicole

My opinion as far as gay marraige is that it should be legalized… People who post on here that it is “Against God” should not preach the bible unless they are going to preach it in full… The bible never said that homosexuality was against God… It only said that “Homosexuality is an abomination to the Earth…” Most people will take that and say “see there… its against him…” but what that means is that it is looked down upon by the earth which is true… and only true due to the ignorance of man…
As far as the Bible goes… There was a seperation of church and state several years ago… It was implemented due to the fact that America grew as a multi-religion country and could not and still cannot sustain all the different beliefs of religions into law… So as far as “God said…” that is out… Laws should be based on common moral standards… Not religion… And based on the laws in place as far as discrimination, the U.S. Government is commiting the highest offense…
There have been scientific tests that has proven homosexuality in animals and not just mankind… With that said, people should take into consideration that it is not our choice to be this way but just the way we are… And if it were our choice, don’t you think that we would choose to be straight in order to avoid being ostracized and ridiculed for our decision?
People who oppose gay/lesbian marraige are selfish… And the way I feel is if you don’t agree with gay/lesbian marraige then don’t get yourself into one… How would you feel if someone was over you dictating who you should and should not marry??? It is the same as pre-determined marriage and it is WRONG!!! It is not your choice, not your decision and ultimately not your RIGHT… Give it up and let people live their lives…

This comment goes out to Mary who posted on May 4th of this year…
Everyone is not Christian sweetheart… So just because it is “UNCHRISTIAN” does not mean everyone has to do what you believe… I’m pretty sure a Jew does not want to run and worship Jesus just because “YOU” believe that it is unchristian-like and wrong for not doing so… and if you dont want to see kissing between two men or women then don’t look…
Personally, if you ask me, I think that making out between any two persons, gay or straight, is personal and should be confined to the bedroom… But since this is America, and people are allowed to do as they wish, I have to suck it up and if I see it then I turn away… It is my preference not to see it, not law honey… this is America and people are going to do, and should be allowed to do what they believe, as stated in the constitution… So as you can see you were being really selfish and arrogant by posting your comment…
It is called “TOLERANCE”… Please get some… And that goes for all the Gay-bashing quote on quote Hetero-sexuals out there… It really shouldn’t matter to you unless you are hiding something yourself that you don’t want to be “exposed”… And I only say that because I was honestly a gay basher before I came to terms with myself… I have straight friends that are comfortable with their sexuality and doesn’t care if gay people are together or not… because it has nothing to do with them… But it is only the homophobic straight people that have issues with it oppose same-sex unions…

Ok hi everyone. I’ve been reading all of you Comments, beliefs and everything else. I am 16 years old and live in texas i myself am not gay but i do have a mother who is a lesbian. I am writing a paper for English on Gay Marriage! I feel that those of you who think it is wrong for gays,lesbians,transvestites, and anyone else who wants same sex marriage to be legal are wrong. Now i get where you are coming from but you don’t know what they want and feel. There is nothing wrong with same sex marriage oh and that crap about “it goes against the will of God himself” a load of shit, why would God tell you i love you just the way you are if he ment to descriminate against one another? ITs because HE DIDN’T!!! I would really like for my mother to not feel that she can’t be treated the same as any other couple that walks downt he street with out being looked down upon.

hey.. im also writing a report but mine is for civics.. im 16 years old and im sending mine to the congress of the state. ive ben reading threw your thoughts and feelings and i just have one thing to say.. why??? im not pro or con for gay marriages i personialy dont care but i think it is rather disturbing to be n walmart n see to people of the same sex touching and kissing.. i understand if u love someone but now days most people have no idea what love is… i mnot saying that i do.. and by the way god made adam and eve different sexs! not the same sex! and god wont look down on you! your family and friends will.. im not here to insult you! but i would like some emails on how everybody thinks on this please ill put your words in my paper.. i need all your thoughts by Thursday. then friday night about 6:00p.m. i will post weather i am pro or con for gay marriages.. PLEASE DONT SEND ME EMAILS CURSING ME OUT! only send what you think and why! ill gladly write you back.. also if i like what you have to say ill make it a red flag in my paper. in other words im writing this on what you people of the united states want not me. please send everything u have to say..
hails_ily@yahoo.com
thank you for all emails i cant wait to read what you people have to say:)

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